but seriously though, if no internet connection or any other sources people can gather their information, community will believe word by word whatever being fed to them by those in power. Like North Koreans, obviously.
I guess it is easy to become angry when we think we have the right to be angry. Allah gives us the ni'mah of having all kinds of feeling including anger, so there must be really goodness in having these feelings that most of the time will only create animosity. I suppose, it is a matter of where to channel the anger to benefit us in some way.
Always I regret my post-hulk actions and words. After being angry there will always be a pang of regret. Just like the other day when an auto driver took an extra 10rupees, I was easily raising up my voice to him. Few minutes after bickering with him, I went up to my room and regret my action so very much. And I thought of going back later to find him and say sorry because he was old and yeah, he was working to find extra money to feed his children maybe.. (although that is not an excuse to cheat people but come on, my 10 rupees is not worth to be angry about) But of course, saying sorry is such a huge task for me and ended up not doing it. It is also hard to find that one particular auto driver in Mysore..
For me, the best way to control my anger is to shut up. Because with that, my anger will subside in a drastic way. I find that in keeping mum about it, made me think twice why should I be angry..and the right I have to be angry with other people whom I don't know things they are currently going through.
I just hope I am able to control my anger and forgive and yes, apologize.
I think giving out reason of "I was being brought up this way and so I cannot change it" for doing something of one's own liking without consideration of others is .. I don't know how to put it exactly in words but I think it is just not nice and it sure is the laziest excuse one can come out with. I kind of dislike when someone plays the card "I was born this way so you have to accept me the way I am as I can't change it" just because what they did is not tolerable to some people. When someone being mean or say, selfish to achieve their goal, you feel disgusted by their act but when you act that way and people need to accept you just because you were born that way? How selfish is that? Unless you have an untreatable medical condition then the point is valid.
Being flexible does not mean if you are thrown into a jungle, you can survive with all the natural resources available. Being flexible means you know how to assess the situation, process it and manage it in your best possible way that will bring the most minimal damage or the most positive outcome either to yourself and those around you. At least that is how I see it.
People can change. It's funny when they say they can't when actually they won't. Just because you were born naked doesn't mean you need to be naked at all time.
We are changing every second whether we realize it or not. Our body cells are proliferating constantly and the old non functional cells are left to die to make way for the new ones. But keep in mind, our body is not able to tolerate when too much cells replicating at a time and will end up in a cancerous state. Get the analogy?
and mind you, this does not refer to Lady Gaga's "I was born this way" in any kind..
toodalooo
and I hope insya Allah I will practise what I preach.
I think the phrase life is not a bed of roses needs to be rephrased to sometimes life IS a bed of roses ..It seems happy and pretty on the surface but we never know the thorns behind that bushes of roses. You will never know what kind of hardship a person already endured unless they tell you so but even then, you are not in the position to tell how hard/easy living their lives. So instead of judging other people lives whether they had it easy/hard or it looked easy/hard/boring/awesome/anyotherwordthatwillfitin to our eyes, what we should do is to contemplate on ourselves.
Alhamdulillah..I am glad for my 22 years of life, though may not be as eventful as Kim Kardashian to have it viewed to the entire world, there were moments I cherished, there were moments I wished them to be deleted, there were moments of many "but what if"s... but that was that. I had my time. I had my chance. You only live once. To live a life with so many regrets of the past is not living and I hope I will not be that kind of person as I age.
I have to say kudos to this girl for what she said are true. For the most of us, it's not that we don't want to tell people, "Dude, you are doing this the wrong way"..but it is that we are scared that after doing so, they will back away and avoiding us. Well it's true for my part as I usually tend to keep my silence and minding my own business. But in a way after watching and processing her words, I am pleased to say, sila jaga tepi kain saya. No worries if I back away from you, insya Allah it won't be long as what you said probably will get through my mind. It is worse if it never reaches my ears and realizing what I have done is wrong. Get what I mean?
So yeah, please mind my business. Not thoroughly such as in stalker-stealth-mode but if I ever did anything wrong which is very obvious, it is best to reach my ears first.
